I used to think that it was all about perspective but now I'm not so sure. I was watching Oprah this weekend (I love my DVR. It's right up there with Caller ID) and it was about wives who had been deceived by their husbands. It really was quite interesting. Each wife seemed to be saying the same thing, why didn't I pay attention to the "signs"? I began to think about the old cliche of looking at the glass as half full. While I'm not married and am no doubt NOT an expert on the subject, I can't help but wonder once you say "I do" are you also agreeing to see the silver lining, find the good, look at the glass as half full. All of these women suspected their husbands of cheating, yet it wasn't a deal breaker. In fact, two of their marriages ended because their husbands went to jail and the other one's husband died of a heart attack. So I wonder are there degrees of cheating? For instance, are you cheating if you are texting or emailing ex's? Is it cheating if you visit or hang out with ex's? What's your take? Are there levels of cheating and is cheating a deal breaker?
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Thanks to all the Mrs. who shared their proposal stories, I really enjoyed reading them and visiting your blogs. I decided that while it was great to read everyone's story and find some source of inspiration that maybe there is hope for me, I also began to slow down and really analyze my life. I started this blog as a reaction to my manfriend not proposing. We have been together for a little over a year and I really thought that we would be engaged by now. So I found myself getting really sad and depressed with each passing event and no ring. Let's see, there was our 1 year anniversary in October, my birthday and a trip to Vegas in November, Christmas and of course, New Year's Eve in December. I am happy to say that as the new year rung in, I wasn't sad or depressed but just still. You know that kind of stillness that just brings an unexplainable calm over your entire being. In my stillness, I realized that I am blessed and that I am learning to appreciate my blessings. I won't front it would have been great to return from the holiday break (I'm a teacher) with my left hand a little heavier. But hey, I didn't and it doesn't decrease or minimize the feelings I have for my manfriend. I made a 2010 goal collage and guess what????? I decided to include getting married. I figured, hey it's a goal and I'm going to add it to my collage. Even though I don't plan on proposing to him, it felt good to put my marriage goal down on paper. It's actually kind of liberating. I feel like I just fully exposed the big, white elephant that's been in my life for years. So as we all make resolutions, intentions, and goals, I'm embracing the skin I'm in for 2010. I know it's sounds hokey but it's true. Our "skin" is different for a reason so let's pledge to embrace our "skin" this year. Your turn..what 2010 skin are you fully embracing?